Thursday, February 17, 2011

Does the Friend Zone Actually Exist?

I added this post as a follow up to a recent visit from a guy I had dated. He came by to see me to share his news about new girlfriend... When my sister asked how I felt, I stated, happy.  Because my instincts had been right, he wasn't looking for ME he was trying to find the old version of his ex wife, which he admitted. New one looks exactly: blonde, tall, thin, etc. Uh hello, do I fit that mold? Lol. No, I was his in between girl.  Do I care, no, only that he's happy now and I followe my own instinct. Basically women & men don't create something that isn't there, if you know it, don't fight it.  Be honest with yourself and move on. Me currently, I'm moving forward knowing who I am and what I want.  I'm content to be socially aware...
This article is from  "Thats Why Your Single"...

Does the Friend Zone Actually Exist?

"I find it curious that the OP winds up in the friend zone so often. Because you see, there’s no such thing as the friend zone for guys – if they are at all attracted to the woman in question. If a female friend of ours is smokin’ hot, you can be sure we’re all too willing to cross that line. The B.S. about not wanting to risk the friendship is a purely female concept. A man will risk a lot of things if a hot piece of tail is in play. If we ever use that line on a female friend it’s merely a nice way of letting her down because we’re not interested in her in that way. So I’m sorry to say that if the OP is always ending up in the friend zone with guys – it means they aren’t attracted to her. Alternatively, if she finds herself only being the rebound for guys in between their committed relationships, it’s likely for the same reason. Sadly, a lot of guys (myself included) will use a woman that, for a host of possible reasons, they identify as easy prey to keep them occupied until something better comes along. But that’s more a referendum on our boorish behavior than anything the OP is doing wrong. – Craig

All people — both men AND women say they “just want to be friends” or “I don’t want to ruin the friendship” when they really mean “I am not attracted to you.” Women are LYING — just like men, when they say that to you.
No one – man or woman — would give up the opportunity to be with someone they truly cared about and wanted to be with, to preserve some theoretical friendship. I am skeptical of anyone who claims otherwise. In any event, sex doesn’t ruin a friendship, so you could have both. Sex and friendship. Just because people don’t admit the truth, doesn’t change reality. – DMN"

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